Counselling in Hampshire and Portsmouth
Please find listed below some of the areas where I have experience and that I cover in my practice including Anxiety relationship issues.
In my practice I work with a number of issues, I specialise in working with people who struggle with Anxiety. Anxiety is different for everybody and we all react differently to all kinds of situations. So it is important that you become aware of your thoughts, feelings, sensations and reactions to your life situations. This will allow you to have a better understanding in dealing with your anxiety. The more aware we become of our triggers the sooner we can deal with these feelings and centre ourselves in a more grounded place. Your patterns of functioning can be deeply ingrained in you which you may or may not be aware that you are avoiding situations to keep your anxiety at bay. Often anxiety is,
1, Worries about the future.
2, Ruminations about the past.
3, Thoughts about being in danger.
4, Critical thoughts about self.
Do you have any of these body sensations, Rapid heart rate, dizziness lightheadedness, sweating, shortness of breath, blushing, trembling or shaky feelings, dry mouth, stomach distress, tension or soreness in the neck, shoulders, or any other muscles, headaches, fatigue, irritability and other sensations. You maybe experiencing Anger, sadness, surprise, disgust, shame as well as other emotions.
Anger is a healthy, normal emotion that has helped our species to survive. It can be used as a creative force for change. If not expressed, anger can manifest as physical problems, depression and anxiety. When badly managed it can get out of control and become aggressive and destructive with negative results. Examples of this are explosive outbursts that cannot be controlled, domestic violence, controlling behaviour, and rages while driving or at work. For some the rush associated with anger can become an addiction.
There are all sorts of causes for our anger, be it a family or cultural pattern that needs to be addressed, frustration, stress, pain or hormonal imbalance. We all have “hooks” that provoke our anger be they rudeness or perceived injustice. Anger management can help by looking at these “hooks” and understanding them, examining our unhealthy beliefs around anger, questioning patterns of anger in our family or culture. Also looking at how anger affects our relationships and taking responsibility for our arousal to anger.
People experience grief and loss in their own way. It’s normal to feel sad and angry when someone close to us dies or leaves. There is a cycle of loss that includes denial, fear, anger, depression and acceptance. Some can transit these stages more easily than others and some can get stuck along the way.
Working with a counsellor can help you understand the mourning process, accept the reality of your loss, help with adjustment to life alone, help resolve any conflict that may still be present for you (such as with child abuse). We need to acknowledge our loss in order for us to move forward by adapting and change; a counsellor can provide a space to help us with this.
We all experience ups and downs in our mood. Depression though is a common complaint that is deeper and longer than the usual periods of unhappiness that can affect us. Causes are sometimes obvious (like loosing a job) and sometimes not. Often there is more than one cause. It can affect our eating and sleeping, leave us feeling tired, emotionally detached and cause us to withdraw from others.
Counselling can sometimes help us to understand our depression and our triggers in order to manage better. If depression is connected with low self-esteem, relationship issues or persistent negative thoughts then counselling can help to explore and address this.
Addiction is being unable to stop a repetitive behavior. This might include drug or alcohol use, shopping, gambling, pornography, sex, video games, eating certain foods, self harm, exercise, adrenaline or violence.
Counselling can help to bring about recognition and understanding of an addiction. It can allow us to examine your emotional needs and look at the underlying causes of addictive behaviour.
Areas of counselling/issues I deal with
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Pregnancy and Childbirth
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Separation and Divorce
Work Related Issues
If you are seeking a counsellor in the City of London you can contact me on: 07527 532 600